Positive or Negative?

One thing I consistently struggle with in recovery is the other people I encounter. My recovery is going very well, and I feel very strong and a changed person on the inside, but alcoholism and addiction is a terrible thing and I am reminded of that at nearly every group counseling session and every AA meeting. I may not see these people very often, but relationships grow very quickly as we share a bond as alcoholics trying to recover. I feel very close to all of these people very fast. When they struggle, and they often do, it really bothers me. T from Walhalla was in every meeting for the first 3 weeks I went to AA then disappeared, only to reappear and take a white chip again a month later. J from Florence and I hit it off and started to go to AA at about the same time. A smart guy and professional writer, he too disappeared for a while, returned and claimed to have been sober (he was lying and everyone knew it-- alcoholics cannot fool other alcoholics). J in Lion Rock has been married about the same number of years as me and was ahead of me in recovery time-- he went on a 4 day relapse, returned for one meeting and has been gone for a month. C at Lion Rock is a funny, quirky accountant who had been on leave to go to rehab-- he was dreading his first day back to work and relapsed the night before and we haven't heard from him since. B at Lion Rock relapsed in an airport after 80 days of sobriety. J in my IOP relapses about every two weeks like clockwork- he has no relationships and no support network. T in my IOP falls apart every time they leave rehab or a Sober Living Community. Sometimes this environment is very hard to take. Last night I was feeling so positive and happy about the many wonderful things in our lives, and after group counseling I felt almost disabled. Is this interaction a positive or a negative for me? I waiver on this, but I think it's an over all positive. There's some value in being reminded of the horrible effects of alcoholism. One thing I struggle with is that I just really want to help-- but I'm far to early in my own recovery to start working on other people. I have my hands full dealing with myself. I also need to get to AA more often because there are many positive stories there--- I know many people who are 20+ years of sobriety. Obviously, I don't encounter those people at the Intensive Outpatient Group Counseling Sessions....